Feedback Friday

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Today’s Feedback Friday is from an IJL Seattle male client who just went on his second IJL date. This was his experience:

“It went really well! It was a pleasant evening. She was attractive, intelligent and a great conversationalist. I liked that she is a successful business woman and a stable mother. I’m really pleased with this date and I’m excited to get to know her more!”

-IJL Seattle male client, age 68

This client was previously married 30 years, so his experience goes to show that you can find romance and a connection at any life stage!

Happy Dating!

-Your It’s Just Lunch Seattle Matchmaker,

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Dating Tip Tuesday: What You Absolutely Should Never Say On A First Date

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We’re all about communication, honesty and a willingness to be boldly transparent when you’re on a date. After all, how are you going to build a potentially long-lasting relationship with someone, if you have your figurative walls up? Being open with someone – and being willing to share certain aspects of yourself, your life, your goals, your possible future – is a pivotal part of the dating process.

However, there are some things you absolutely just shouldn’t say on a first date. Even if they’re true; even if they’re completely accurate and you would be 100% forthright in your confession; there are just some things that are either A) better left unsaid, or B) Never said at all.

So, with that in mind, here are just a few things that you should never, absolutely ever, say on a first date:

“I just finished cyber-stalking my ex.”

Just, don’t. Don’t. Even if you’re still having a difficult time completely letting go of your ex-husband/wife/significant other/lover/whoever, don’t admit to it. Don’t let your date know that while they’re going on about their favorite movies, you’re thinking about what your ex is doing and who they’re doing it with. Does it take time to get over a relationship? Of course, sometimes it really does and sometimes it is completely warranted. Just, you know, put on a brave face and don’t admit to it on a first date.

“I’m finished with my antibiotics in about 2-3 days.”

If the antibiotics are for a serious cold, you shouldn’t be on a date in the first place! If the antibiotics are for a sexually transmitted disease, well hey, stuff happens and we’re so very glad that you’re being safe and treating your symptoms and yes, talking about safe sex and disclosing any potential issues with a future partner is vital; but not on a first date. Not unless, of course, you plan on having sex on a first date. But if you aren’t and your “issue” is going to be cleared up in a few days, there’s honestly no point. Keep your burning loins, to yourself.

“My period is almost over.”

Again, periods aren’t “gross” and there’s no reason any woman should feel ashamed of a very natural bodily function, but there are some natural bodily functions that just don’t need to be discussed on a first date, at the dinner table while cocktails are being consumed and appetizers are being served.

“I slept with our server. I hope that’s not weird.”

There’s honestly just no reason to be divulging you sexual past to someone on a first date. They shouldn’t be asking, and you really don’t need to be willingly telling. A) that’s no one’s business and B) we can’t tell you that going down the list of past sexual encounters makes for great first date conversation.

We definitely encourage an open line of communication between you and your date, and that is best established through honesty and a willingness to open up and share. Just, you know, don’t open up and share too much.

Happy Dating!

-Your It’s Just Lunch Matchmakers,

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Feedback Friday

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Today’s Feedback Friday is from an IJL Seattle male client who just had his first date. He was a little hesitant going in about what to expect, but this is what he had to say afterwards:

“She was very nice and cool, good personality, gorgeous girl, smart and easy conversation. The time flew and we exchanged numbers at the end. I already asked her out again and we’re planning to get together next week. You guys did really well!”

-IJL male client, 47 

Trusting us with your dating life can be a big leap of faith, but you’ll never know unless you jump in with both feet – the journey is what makes the end result worth it!

Happy Dating!

-Your It’s Just Lunch Seattle Matchmaker,

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Staff Obsessions: Seattle Spring Events, Part 2

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There are tons of fun, tasty spring events going on in the Seattle area over the next month. All are guaranteed to be delicious, fun and full of entertainment. So plan ahead, pick a festival (or a couple) from below, and set that date!

 

Taste Washington; Thursday March 31- Sunday April 3rd; CenturyLink Field 

Taste Washington, the country’s largest regional wine festival, has four days of events at CenturyLink Field. The festival highlights on that Saturday and Sunday with the Grand Tasting, (from 1-5pm) which has wines from over 225 wineries and food from over 65 restaurants. There are also VIP tickets available for the event, which includes access to the “Barrel Room”, a swag bag, and exclusive lounge.

Emerald City Comicon; Thursday April 7- Sunday April 10; Washington State Convention Center

Get a ticket before they are all gone! Visit the Northwest’s biggest “geek” extravaganza (outside San Diego) at the Washington State Convention Center. It is the premier pop culture and comic book convention featuring panels, exhibits, celebrity guests and more!

The Northwest Tequila & Agave Spirits Fest; Friday April 22-Saturday April 23; Fremont Foundry

The Fest was started in 2012, celebrating the love of tequila and mezcal. This fest has a new location and a newly expanded schedule, over 2 days is twice the fun! Plan on over 130 bottles of the best agave-based booze around. These features are unique, whether mixed in a cocktail, on the rocks or straight up.  The event is mainly indoor, but there is a courtyard and a large rooftop deck that features a VIP lounge. The party features music, nibbles from Seattle area restaurants, and seminars.

Washington Beer Collaboration Festival, Friday April 22-Saturday April 23; South Lake Union Discovery Center Lawn

This festival is a unique style of brew fest featuring 50 local breweries, but only 25 collaboration beers. These beers highlight the creativity and collaborative spirit of the Washington Beer community. Enjot tastings and snack from several different food trucks, including Woodshop BBQ and Nosh.

Have fun and happy dating!

-Your It’s Just Lunch Seattle Matchmaker,

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Dating Tip Tuesday: How To Turn A First Date, Into A Second

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The only thing better than a first date, is a second one. However, turning a first date into a second date can, at times, be difficult. Connection aren’t always mutual, schedules don’t always synch and some people just aren’t as well intentioned as others. However, if you’ve just had an amazing first date and you’re adamant about seeing that potentially special someone again, here are three easy ways you can turn that first date, into date number two.

Follow Up Like A Boss

Don’t be afraid to be the first to reach out. There’s no reason why you should adhere to an aging social standard that says the man should be the one to call, and you definitely don’t need to follow some fictitious rule like “wait three days”. If you like them and want to see them again, let them know! It’s honestly that simple.

Call, Don’t Text

We understand that technology has dictated how we interact with one another, but a call is more meaningful than a text message. It just, well, is. If you feel uncomfortable calling, we understand and maybe, for you, text messaging is the way to go. But if you think you can stomach an actual phone call, do it. The fact that you made the time to speak into a phone and hear their voice on the other end, won’t go unnoticed.

Be Flexible 

If you want to see someone again, then you need to make it a priority. Securing a second date is the start of compromise; the very compromise you would have to uphold when in a long-term relationship. So don’t be surprised if seeing your date again would mean moving your schedule around or pulling an all-nighter one day a week for work. When you’re beginning to engage in a relationship, it’s important to remember that you’re not the only one involved.

At the end of the day, how your first date is going to dictate whether or not it turns into a second, but there are things you can do after your date is over to help ensure that you see that person again. It’s all about continuously engaging, being honest, and having the courage to put yourself out there.

Happy Dating!

-Your It’s Just Lunch Seattle Matchmakers,

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Feedback Friday

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Today’s Feedback Friday is from an IJL Seattle female client who recently emailed me about an interesting coincidence that happened to her:

“Kayla,

I thought you’d get a kick out of this. Today I was riding the bicycle at the gym next to a woman I talk to occasionally. She mentioned to me that her sister was having a really good time with the man she met a year ago. When I asked her how they met she said It’s Just Lunch. She suggested that I join IJL. Her son also used IJL.

She ranted and raved about how good you guys are over there. I let her go on and on and then finally I confessed to her that I had recently joined. She’s very excited for me. Hey, I’m excited for me too!”

-IJL Seattle female client, age 61

We always appreciate when clients spread the word about their great experiences with IJL. Hearing such rave reviews like this one helps clients get even more excited about the process!

Happy Dating!

-Your It’s Just Lunch Seattle Matchmaker,

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Dating Tip Tuesday: How To Date When You’re A Parent

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Dating is hard for everyone, but it can be especially hard for a single parent. You’re decision, who you associate yourself with and who you decide to be romantically involved with affect more than just yourself, and the weight of your decisions is substantially heavier when children are involved.

But just because you’re a parent, doesn’t mean you don’t deserve the same love, romance and prospects as anyone else. Which is why, when you’re a single parent, you’re still entitled to a romantic life. The balance may be difficult to find, but here are a few ways to make dating when you’re a parent, easier.

Be Honest, Upfront And Always 

Having a child isn’t a piece of information you should ever feel like you should hide, and it most certainly help your dating life to avoid talking about your life in an organic and honest way. Be upfront about your situation; let your date know that yes, you’re a parent and yes, you’re up for (insert: whatever it is you’re up for). Communication is key when it comes to dating, for anyone, but especially when you’re a parent.

Take The Time To Self-Examinate 

It might be uncomfortable or awkward or even painful, but looking inward is key when you’re dating. Learn to be honest with yourself. Figure out what it is you’re looking for, want and need. You can’t be truthful with someone, if you’re not truthful with yourself, first.

Talk To Your Kids 

If your children are old enough to understand, be upfront and honest with them. There’s no reason to keep them in the dark as, well, let’s be honest: kids are smart. You don’t want your child to feel like you’re abandoning them, hurting them or putting them last on your list of important people, so be truthful about your intentions. Let them know that romance is important to everyone, and everyone definitely includes you.

Separate Your Dating Life From Your Parenting Life (For Now)

Being a parent means, more often than not, protecting your children. There’s no reason to involve your kid in your romantic conquests, until you feel like someone is in it for the long haul. We’re not saying that it’s healthy to lie to your kid, but we are saying that it’s healthy to protect your kid form a possible let down of what could turn into a revolving door or dating prospects. Don’t introduce your children to your date, until you are certain your date is going to stick around.

Find A Balance

Because you’re a parent, you’re incapable of investing all of who you are in one particular thing. Dating is just one facet of your complex life, so find a balance between being a parent, a coworker, a friend, and a date. You can put off a date to spend time with your kid; that’s completely warranted and healthy. And you can find someone to spend time with your kid, while you go on a date; that’s also completely healthy and warranted. Don’t let your guilt force you into putting too much time into one thing. Being a human is complicated and complex.

Dating is hard for everyone, but that definitely doesn’t mean it isn’t also worth it. For everyone. So whether you’re a single parent or just single, enjoy yourself, have fun and give yourself the opportunity to find the love of your life.

Happy Dating!

-Your It’s Just Lunch Seattle Matchmakers,

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