Dinner Club Dish: How Introverts Can Appear More Social In Group Settings

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Introverts often avoid any social settings that involve more than a few people. So when they hear about an IJL Dinner Party made up of a group of people they don’t know, they run for the hills. However, some of our more introverted clients have figured out how to find great success in finding relationships at our Dinner Parties. Here are a few of my favorite tips on appearing more social and extroverted in social settings such as IJL Dinner Parties:

Plan ahead: Prepare yourself before walking into a group situation. Allow yourself plenty of time to get to the venue so that you don’t feel rushed. Listen to a pump-up song on the way there or take a few minutes to collect your thoughts in your car before walking in. Do a few breathing exercises to help reduce anxiety and stress.

Focus your attention on 1 person: Rather than trying to work the room during mingling time, focus your attention on getting to know one person. Introduce yourself and ask a couple open-ended questions to get the conversation going.

Embrace your shyness: Don’t try to be someone that you are not. If you get nervous meeting new people, say so when you introduce yourself. Tell them, “I always get nervous for these events because I’m not the best at small talk.” Chances are the other person feels the same way and acknowledging it can help break the ice and get the conversation going.

Have some go-to topics of conversation: Introverts are planners, so prepare a few conversation starters ahead of time. Come equipped with some open-ended questions in order to invite others to engage you. Just make sure to stay away from any corny pick-up lines or yes/no questions.

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Happy Dating!

-Your It’s Just Lunch Seattle Matchmaker,

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Jillian’s Favorite Dinner Club Feedback of 2015!

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Every Monday it is so fun to read feedback from the previous week’s Dinner Party! I love to see all of the connections that form, feedback on the private dining experience, as well as all of the conversations that took place. Upon reflecting on my favorite feedback of 2015, I have to share an email that I received this past fall from one of my many Dinner Club couples of 2015!

 I wanted to reach out to you – we are both so happy that you put us side-by-side at that dinner party a few months ago. We have enjoyed each other’s company tremendously! We have done all kinds of things from hikes to Mariners games, soccer games and more. I’ve helped him discover some new restaurants in the city and he’s helped me reestablish my appreciation for the eastside. We are getting along well, we look good together and we are incredibly happy. Thanks again for putting us side-by-side!

-Dinner Club female client, age 42

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And, of course, happy dating!

-Your It’s Just Lunch Seattle Matchmaker,

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Jillian

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Dinner Club Dish: Creating Multiple Connections

One of the reasons the Dinner Club has been so successful is because the venue provides the opportunity to connect with multiple individuals in one evening. However, in order to make the most of each party, it is important to master the juggling act of getting to know everyone while still focusing the majority of your time on the individuals you feel the strongest connection to.

Here are my top 3 tips on connecting with multiples at your next Dinner Party:

Take full advantage of the ice-breaker: It’s only 15 minutes, so don’t focus on just one individual. Spend 2-3 minutes with the 6 people that are seated farthest away from you. You will have plenty of time to learn about your seat mates, so make sure to focus on individuals that you won’t have as much time with once dinner starts. In order to maximize the ice-breaker even more, mingle in groups of 3-4 instead of 1:1.

Focus on group conversation over 1:1 during dinner: Dinner parties typically go in two directions, either the group talks together the entire night or the guests break off into small conversations of 2-4. In hearing Dinner Party feedback for three years, the most successful dinner parties tend to be the ones where the group conversed together rather than breaking off into the smaller conversations. This allows you to get to know each person and who intrigues you the most, no matter where you are sitting. If one of your seat mates tries to take up all of your time, make a point to bring others into the conversation and make sure not to close off your body language to others.

Utilize the email contact list: Feel a really strong chemistry with someone? Exchange information on a personal level to show interest. Feel a medium connection with multiple guests including ones of the same-sex? Take advantage of the email contact list. If you really enjoyed speaking to someone during the ice-breaker, but didn’t have a chance to talk during dinner, make sure to follow-up via the email contact. It’s always better to set up something 1:1 to see if the connection grows rather than wondering. Additionally, finding new friends of the same-sex can always increase your chances at meeting someone great! They may have a friend that they think you would like or you may have your next Friday night wing-man/wing-woman!

Cheers to connecting with multiple guests at your next Dinner Party!

-Your It’s Just Lunch Seattle Matchmaker,

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Dinner Club Bachelorette of the Month

The Dinner Club has been busier than ever this summer, so I’ve interviewed some really amazing and dynamic clients! Here’s a little bit on one of my new, fantastic Dinner Club women!

This month’s bachelorette is a brunette girl-next-door with great style: a true “jeans to jewels” woman! She’s a 41-year-old project manager who attended Gonzaga University and is one amazing tri-athlete! When she’s not training for her next event, she loves spending time with her friends and being social, either wine tasting or taking a quick trip to New York for a show. This month’s bachelorette is looking for a man that is dynamic, social and values giving back to the community!

Be sure to look out for her at your next dinner party!

– Your It’s Just Lunch Seattle Matchmaker,

Jillian 2015

Jillian

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Favorite Weekend Getaway for Singles and Couples

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Grab a few of your other single friends and head up to the San Juan Islands for a fun filled weekend to “rough it” in one of Lakedale Resort’s canvas tents. No pitching a tent required! Each canvas tent comes with a queen bed with pillow-top bedding and full sized futon. On top of that, they offer a toasty toes turndown service where the staff delivers hot water bottles each evening to toast your toes on those not so warm Pacific Northwest evenings. No need to pack your bagels and bacon, because they offer complimentary breakfast and coffee each morning.

If no electricity and no bathroom in your room is a deal breaker for you and your friends, try their Canvas Cottage that offers its own full bathroom, chandelier, electricity and a cozy lakeside setting.

The “ glampground” opened May 1st, so make your Summer reservations early, as they only have 16 sites available. http://www.lakedale.com/canvas.php

Favorite Weekend Getaway for Couples: Victoria, BC

Victoria is the perfect weekend getaway for new couples or couples that have been together for years! My husband and I visited Victoria for the first time to celebrate our first anniversary. One of my favorite aspects of the entire trip was the ride up to Victoria on the Clipper. The views were breathtaking and boat traffic was much more relaxing than I-5 on a Friday afternoon.

Where to Stay:  I recommend staying at the world famous Fairmont Empress. The hotel and grounds are beautifully maintained.  It’s also a great center point in the city and walking distance from the Clipper dock. If you’ve been dating for a while, book a couples massage at the Willow Stream Spa for a relaxing start to the weekend. Also, don’t miss out on their 107 year old tradition of afternoon tea!

What to do: A must for your Victoria weekend is a visit to the Butchart Gardens, especially this time of year. If you are in a newer relationship, strolling the gardens together will give you the opportunity to further get to know each other while taking in all of the beautiful sights. Insider Tip: If you travel to Victoria in July or August, go to the gardens on Saturday in the late afternoon. Every Saturday during the Summer they offer a dazzling firework show at sundown. Also, on your way out to Butchart gardens, take some extra time to visit one of their 14 wineries. My must-sip winery choice is Church & State in Brentwood Bay where they are known for their award-winning Pinot Gris.

– Your It’s Just Lunch Seattle Matchmaker,

Jillian 2015

Jillian

If you would like to meet Seattle Singles with It’s Just Lunch Seattle contact us at: itsjustlunchseattle.com
If you would like to meet Seattle Singles with IJL Dinner Club contact us at: ijldinnerclub.com

Dinner Club Dish with Jillian: Favorite Eastside vs. Westside Dinner Club Restaurants

Westside: Palisade

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I hosted my inaugural dinner party at Palisade in 2012 and have continued to host there every month since. It is by far my clients’ favorite destination to attend a Dinner Party. Here’s why: The private room; it’s the perfect size for mingling and nothing beats the views of Elliott Bay Marina on a sunny Seattle day. Next, the table; I use a round table which creates the perfect opportunity for all the guests in attendance to easily communicate. Lastly, the food and service; Palisade its known for their generous portions and equally generous wine pours. The Captain for the evening offers the perfect balance of service; always available, but never intrusive.

Eastside: Milagro Cantina

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Moving from my most senior restaurant to my newest, my clients really enjoyed attending our first Dinner Party at Milagro Cantina earlier this month. Here’s why: The atmosphere, located in Downtown Kirkland, the environment makes guests feel comfortable and excited for a fun evening with new friends! They start the evening with a celebratory toast around the fire before being seated for dinner. Next, the margaritas; the skinny margarita is one of the best I’ve had in a long time and adds a nice alternative option to wine. Lastly, the free parking; there is a lot behind the restaurant that is free for guests. Being a Westsider myself, free parking almost makes driving to the Eastside more attractive than driving downtown!

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IJL Seattle Matchmaker,

Jillian


If you would like to meet Seattle Singles with It’s Just Lunch Seattle contact us at: itsjustlunchseattle.com
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Dinner Club Dish with Jillian: Why Not To Be Intimidated at an IJL Dinner Party

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Hearing the words “group dating” can seem intimidating at first. However, after taking several years of feedback from my IJL Dinner Club clients, you should be enthusiastic about the opportunities that may arise from your next Dinner Party. Here are a few of my tips for a successful dinner party experience:

Fear #1: I’m not comfortable in group settings.

Keep in mind each of these parties consist of 8 to 10 singles. It’s not a group of 100 or more. You have all been matched and selected to attend based on what each of you are looking for. This means you already have commonalities with the other individuals in attendance. Additionally, everyone is SINGLE (no need to search for rings). The evening starts with a champagne mingle to get out any nerves and to help break the ice. Following that, there isn’t any question of where to sit, because we’ve taken care of the seating for you. Then it’s just time to sit back and relax into the conversation while enjoying a fabulous dinner.

Fear #2: Everyone will like the same woman/man.

All attendees are matched and selected to attend based on attraction, age range, personality and common interests. My goal is to create a good chemistry within the group that I have matched with a variety of personalities. Yes, there will be times when more than one person is interested in the same person. However, if you aren’t sure of their interest, continue to engage them the remainder of the evening and follow-up from the email exchange the next day to pursue a second date.

Fear#3 I’m not “fancy” enough to attend Dinner Parties.

Yes, some of our Dinner Parties are held at top-rated restaurants in Seattle, but we also work with some smaller casual restaurants as well. Each Dinner Party is meant to be a comfortable and fun dining experience. No need to go out and buy a new three piece suit or a cocktail dress. Just be yourself and dress in a way that makes you feel the most attractive. The rest is easy!

In closing, I thought I’d share a portion of feedback from one of my clients that attended our first dinner party of 2015:

“I had a delightful time at the Palisades dinner party and want to thank you for putting together a truly enjoyable evening. I felt like I had been invited to a VIP event to kick off the New Year. You asked me to rank the evening on a scale from 1-5, but I’m giving it a 10. The views were stunning. Sometimes I forget how beautiful the water, the boats, and the city skyline really are. The menu selections were perfect, as were the wine pairings. I loved the ice breaker and felt it allowed me to quickly assess some compatibility/common interests with the gentlemen.”

I look forward to another year of successful and exciting IJL Dinner Parties! Cheers!

IJL Seattle Matchmaker,


Jillian