Introverts often avoid any social settings that involve more than a few people. So when they hear about an IJL Dinner Party made up of a group of people they don’t know, they run for the hills. However, some of our more introverted clients have figured out how to find great success in finding relationships at our Dinner Parties. Here are a few of my favorite tips on appearing more social and extroverted in social settings such as IJL Dinner Parties:
Plan ahead: Prepare yourself before walking into a group situation. Allow yourself plenty of time to get to the venue so that you don’t feel rushed. Listen to a pump-up song on the way there or take a few minutes to collect your thoughts in your car before walking in. Do a few breathing exercises to help reduce anxiety and stress.
Focus your attention on 1 person: Rather than trying to work the room during mingling time, focus your attention on getting to know one person. Introduce yourself and ask a couple open-ended questions to get the conversation going.
Embrace your shyness: Don’t try to be someone that you are not. If you get nervous meeting new people, say so when you introduce yourself. Tell them, “I always get nervous for these events because I’m not the best at small talk.” Chances are the other person feels the same way and acknowledging it can help break the ice and get the conversation going.
Have some go-to topics of conversation: Introverts are planners, so prepare a few conversation starters ahead of time. Come equipped with some open-ended questions in order to invite others to engage you. Just make sure to stay away from any corny pick-up lines or yes/no questions.
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