We’re all about communication, honesty and a willingness to be boldly transparent when you’re on a date. After all, how are you going to build a potentially long-lasting relationship with someone, if you have your figurative walls up? Being open with someone – and being willing to share certain aspects of yourself, your life, your goals, your possible future – is a pivotal part of the dating process.
However, there are some things you absolutely just shouldn’t say on a first date. Even if they’re true; even if they’re completely accurate and you would be 100% forthright in your confession; there are just some things that are either A) better left unsaid, or B) Never said at all.
So, with that in mind, here are just a few things that you should never, absolutely ever, say on a first date:
“I just finished cyber-stalking my ex.”
Just, don’t. Don’t. Even if you’re still having a difficult time completely letting go of your ex-husband/wife/significant other/lover/whoever, don’t admit to it. Don’t let your date know that while they’re going on about their favorite movies, you’re thinking about what your ex is doing and who they’re doing it with. Does it take time to get over a relationship? Of course, sometimes it really does and sometimes it is completely warranted. Just, you know, put on a brave face and don’t admit to it on a first date.
“I’m finished with my antibiotics in about 2-3 days.”
If the antibiotics are for a serious cold, you shouldn’t be on a date in the first place! If the antibiotics are for a sexually transmitted disease, well hey, stuff happens and we’re so very glad that you’re being safe and treating your symptoms and yes, talking about safe sex and disclosing any potential issues with a future partner is vital; but not on a first date. Not unless, of course, you plan on having sex on a first date. But if you aren’t and your “issue” is going to be cleared up in a few days, there’s honestly no point. Keep your burning loins, to yourself.
“My period is almost over.”
Again, periods aren’t “gross” and there’s no reason any woman should feel ashamed of a very natural bodily function, but there are some natural bodily functions that just don’t need to be discussed on a first date, at the dinner table while cocktails are being consumed and appetizers are being served.
“I slept with our server. I hope that’s not weird.”
There’s honestly just no reason to be divulging you sexual past to someone on a first date. They shouldn’t be asking, and you really don’t need to be willingly telling. A) that’s no one’s business and B) we can’t tell you that going down the list of past sexual encounters makes for great first date conversation.
We definitely encourage an open line of communication between you and your date, and that is best established through honesty and a willingness to open up and share. Just, you know, don’t open up and share too much.
-Your It’s Just Lunch Matchmakers,